5.12.2017

Reminiscing

Jacob and I stayed up until 3:30 one night last month, just talking and reminiscing. See, we've known each other since we were kids, but became actual friends during homeroom in 11th grade. There was a little bit of a crush on both our parts, but neither of us said anything and soon enough, I had a boyfriend that lasted the rest of high school. Two months later, he had a girlfriend.

We stayed friendly though, so when he called me out of the blue six months after graduation to hang out and catch up, I didn't bat an eye. What I didn't know at the time is that he was asked by my ex-boyfriend to interfere with my current relationship. Jacob had just broken up with his high school sweetheart and said he always liked me, so he would play along. Um, RUDE!

It worked though. We hung out a few times, I broke up with my boyfriend, Jacob and I dated for a month, then I got back together with my boyfriend. A year later when my boyfriend and I were done for good, Jacob and I dated again. When I decided I really needed to be single after two consecutive 18-month relationships (at age 20!), we put the romance on the back burner and became best friends (who sometimes went on dates). We finally made it official when we were 22 and never looked back.

So that night we told stories about our friends, our shenanigans, and the other people we dated. It's crazy that even though we were constantly around each other and we've been together for 15 years we still found some things we'd never shared. Or at least got a new perspective on the same stories. Although I never believed in fate or destiny or soulmates, I honestly feel like we were always each other's person. We just had to figure out a bunch of stuff before we got there.

This reminiscing went on for a few weeks. We even pulled an all-nighter last Sunday! We were about to go to sleep at 4:00 am, but since he wakes up at 5:20 for work, we decided to make breakfast and keep on talking. (This all-nighter wrecked me for days. I'm too old for that!) We've been pulling out boxes from the garage filled with random stuff from high school and college. We poured over yearbooks, old photos, letters, and cards. If you're friends with me on Facebook, you probably saw a few things. It's been pretty fun.

We've come so far and have this awesome life and little family, but it also feels like just yesterday that we became friends. I'm so lucky that he's my guy and we have this crazy shared history. During this walk down memory lane, I found out (or well, remembered) some funny things.

Diaries are hilarious. My sister consistently kept a diary and I always attempted to, but never stuck with it. They were mostly from middle school and always began on January first. Ha! Holy crap, reading through them was soooo uncomfortable! I was a naive little dork who spelled terribly (loose instead of lose, yesturday, mabey) and used the word "retarded" a lot. One entry that absolutely killed me talked about how my friend and I carved our crushes initials into our ankles with a safety pin to create a scar/tattoo. THANK GOD we didn't go that deep. I do remember those white letters lasting a few months though.

Made-for-TV movies were my jam. I was reading through the notes my high school boyfriend passed to me between classes and in many of them, he asked me how my TV movie was the previous night. Do you remember in the '90s, before the Lifetime Movie Channel, when there would be one on Fox every Monday night? They'd star Tori Spelling, Tiffani-Amber Thiessan, Keri Russell, Hillary Swank, Candace Cameron, etc. I forgot that I was as into them then as I am now. LOL!

I was more responsible than I remember. I was just telling Jacob that I don't remember having much of a discussion about having sex prior to losing my virginity, but in those notes, my boyfriend and I did talk a lot about it. Like when the right time was and birth control. I don't regret anything, we were always smart and safe, and I have a pretty standard and sweet first love story. But I honestly didn't remember giving it much thought (and felt a little sad about that), so I'm glad I had those notes to prove myself wrong.

I was a good note writer. I was seriously cringing reading some of the stuff my friends and boyfriend wrote to me in notes. After reading my diaries, I assumed I was just as embarrassing. Luckily I had a few back and forth notes and Jacob pulled out some I wrote him and I gotta say, I really wasn't that awkward. Whew!

Rumors. There were some pretty bad rumors spread about me toward the end of senior year. One was told by one of my best friends and I found out about it about a week later, in front of a bunch of people, which was humiliating. And then there was another one that I didn't learn about until I was in college. I don't think that one got as far as the first, but I was still pretty horrified. I will totally tell you what they were in an email if you want to know. I'm not trying to be secretive or annoying, I just don't really want to put it ALL out there in blogland.

I could go on and on, but I'm gonna end it here with a picture of Jacob I took the last week of school.
Look how cute he was! And he still is! 😍

3 comments:

jenn said...

oh, see, i can't stand reading old diaries. i'm not amused. i'm ashamed of how badly i wrote and how i awkward i was. can't laugh at it yet. mabey someday. :] (see what i did there?)

and yes, your boy jacob was cute. he should've spoke up sooner.

Misty said...

I'm really glad I never kept a diary back then. I'm sure I would cringe now.

Ok, you totally have to email me about the rumors.

Did someone give you a teenie weenie?

Elle Sees said...

I think that is freaking awesome!! I love it. I don't talk about my personal life ever, but I've recently reconnected with someone I've known since I was 6! We were good friends through hs and then lost touch until recently. It's awesome to have that shorthand and that our families know each other. Loved reading and yes I'm nosey about the rumors.