Facebook Faux Pas

Facebook is driving me crazy lately. I recently tweeted that I needed to unplug from social media for a while because of all the negativity, but then realized the people that are bothering me are all IRL friends and family. Here are my pet peeves:

Sports tweets. We get it, you love football. You love it so much that you post selfies in your jersey from six different angles. Then to make sure we know you're serious about it, you post your reaction to each play throughout the game. STOP. We can watch the game if we want to. If you need to chat about it, text a buddy.

Over-posting. We really don't need to know what you're doing every hour, eating for every meal, which errands you have to run, what exercises you did, and where you have to go. Just get offline and do it! Did you ever notice that the only people that comment on those posts are old people?

Complaining about things you can control. YOU chose to have five kids, so don't come to Facebook looking for sympathy about how hard it is to wrangle your basketball team. You chose your job. If you hate it and your boss is annoying and your co-workers don't like you, find a new workplace. You also chose your partner. It is 100% unhealthy to bring up any issues you're going through online, which is basically asking friends and family to weigh in. If you don't like a part of your life, change it!

Complaining about things you can't control. I'm sorry that the weather was too hot/too cold today. Sure, it sucks that there's so much traffic. And yeah, it's crazy that some stores have already put out Christmas decorations. But, OH WELL. You can't control any of that, why is it taking up so much space in your brain? Sad.

Posting inspirational quotes or song lyrics. If we really know you, we know exactly which ex-boyfriend or backstabbing friend you're talking about. Chances are they do too. It's awkward for everyone. Save some face and ponder it quietly or call a friend to vent about your situation.

Politics. Steer clear. Period. You aren't going to change anyone's mind by posting statistics and memes and, I don't know, pictures of fetuses (yeah, I have friends that do that). Have meaningful, respectful conversations with the people closest to you where you feel you might make a difference.

Raining on parades. I don't know why, when you see something good (baby or engagement announcements, a kid's good grades or winning team, celebrating an anniversary, amazing vacations, etc) you feel the need to crap all over it. It has to stem from jealousy or feelings of inadequacy, so I feel sorry for you, but it's also just plain rude. Facebook should be about bringing people together, not tearing them apart.

I heavily edited my friend lists on all social media platforms last week and it felt good. So even though I just wrote about all these things that bug me, I know I have control of what I want to spend my time looking at. Problem solved! I just wish more people had better online etiquette.  

What bothers you the most on Facebook?


Kelly @ turned UP to ELEVEN! said...

Amen!!! I've taken to unfollowing but not unfriending nearly HALF of my friends list on FB!!!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I love to laugh at people. And most of these are like WTF laughable. They are very annoying though.

I do share and post about political shit. Sorry!

Jana @ Jana Says said...

Someone I know who is a huge Debbie Downer just yesterday combined about 4 of these by shitting all over Daniel Murphy and Mets fans for no reason other than...well, he's pretty much miserable and never positive. It's part of why I'm starting to detest FB. Not him specifically, but peoplel like him.

The inspirational quotes, passive aggressive vaguebooking, and complaining about both things you can and can't control get under my skin more than anything.

Erin of TexErin-in-SydneyLand said...

So much of this made me laugh. The oversharing about issues with one's partner...ugh...hate that so so so sooooo much. So many examples come to mind, but I always remember this scenario: A not-so-close friend from high school (you know, the guy that sent a friends request, and you have 57 mutual friends, so you feel obligated to accept?) spent two months posting about his cheating liar of a wife, only to get back together with her and post about how in love they are. Now. I'm not one to say that a marriage can't overcome infedility. But, none of this needed to be broadcasted on facebook.

Politics - oh lawd. I giggle sometimes, other times I shake my head, and ever so often, I "hide" or delete a friend.

Great post!

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Karen Peterson said...

For the record, I'm TRYING to change my horrible job! :-)

lil desiqua said...

Yes to all of these! I recently did a similar post because I was so tired of seeing these things, and had just done a huge "unfollow" purge on FB. I forgot about the sports one, but I completely agree. I know whenever a sports team plays because every sports fan feels the need to clog up my Newsfeed with their incessant reactions to the plays. Ugh.

Kristen said...

These are just some of the reasons I generally avoid Facebook. I do check it at least every couple of days to see if anything exciting has been posted, but I usually just end up feeling annoyed or possibly even confused (like WHY would anyone post this?). I should probably just "hide" people, but I don't really have the patience to go through my friends list and do that.

I will admit that I used to be incredibly passive aggressive online (particularly with my AIM away messages, if you remember the days of AIM) ... But I was in high school and college at the time. I was young and did ridiculous things. When I see someone around my age (or older!) doing this now, I feel kind of sad for them. I assume they're just seeking attention (I mean, I usually was when I did that back in the day), and no one around them is willing to take a few minutes out of their day to listen to them vent. It still makes me shake my head, but I'm mostly just sad.