Accidental Date

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day! I hope yours is filled with hearts and love and mush! Jacob and I have been together for fourteen years and he regularly does sweet things for me, so I don't feel the need to make V-Day a big production. We'll probably rent a movie and make some snacks. We might even get really crazy and play Rummy with a back massage going to the winner.

So since I'm not getting into any romance today, I thought I'd share the story of how I accidentally went on a date. I had just graduated, moved in with Jacob, and went back to work at the daycare that employed me during community college and every summer after. My boss loved me and was happy to have me back for a month or two until I found a grown up job. I came in at 11:00 to cover lunch breaks for a few teachers. I spent the afternoons driving the bus to collect kids for the after-school program. And in the evening, I was responsible for closing the place down, as well as hanging out in a classroom with the few kids who stayed until 6:30. 

Among the kids were a pair of brothers, ages two and four. Gabe, the 4-year-old, had trouble in his preschool class almost every day. His parents were going through a divorce and he was acting out and getting physical with other kids. I never had a problem with him in the evenings though, probably because it was a less structured environment and he was getting a little one-on-one attention. One of the reasons I hated being a closer was because I'd have to give parents any bad news when they picked up their children. I had to talk to Gabe's dad daily and always had an incident report to pass on. I felt terrible for him. He was doing everything he could and knew it was getting out of control, but felt hopeless. 

One day I walked by Gabe's classroom and saw him mid-meltdown. I asked if I could butt in to give the teacher a break and let him calm down. We took a walk on the playground, he chilled out, and had a great afternoon. Gabe and his brother were last to be picked up, and when his dad arrived, I was happy to have something positive to tell him. We chatted for a few minutes, but were rushed because we needed to lock up the building. On my way out, I saw that he was still in the parking lot trying to herd his crazy kids into their car. I stopped to help and we continued our talk while the kids were being wild inside. He said they were starving and was going to take them to McDonald's across the street and asked if I wanted to join them. I met them over there five minutes later, and he had already ordered food for us.

While we talked, the boys ran around the play area. We discussed Gabe's behavior, his teachers, and some tricks I had learned over my five-year teaching career. He also talked a little about his divorce and how his ex had sort of checked out of the situation. It looked like he was about to get full custody and was happy, but nervous about it. When he called the boys over to start eating, we were already finished with our food, so I said I had to get going. He thanked me and said, "This was fun. Next time we go out, it'll have to be without the kids." Then he winked.

Wait, what?! Was that just a date? I drove home, told Jacob all about it, and he made fun of me. A few days later, when he brought it up again, I told Mr. Mom that I had a boyfriend.

By the way, did I mention how hot he was? All the ladies at work loved him. About a month later, Gabe's classroom got a new teacher. She was my best work friend and transferred over from a toddler class. After a week in the preschool class she told me Gabe's dad asked her out and she wasn't sure what to do. I told her to go for it. They ended up going out for two months, but it fizzled out, mostly because she was 23, like me, and he was a 30-year old single dad. She did tell me that he was the best kiss she'd ever had. Maybe I should have gone on a second date after all...

Sorry, Jacob. Here's your Valentine card.

One day I'll have to share some stories from my daycare days. 95% of the teachers I worked with were professional and very good at their jobs, but they were also human. When you have a building full of women (and an occasional guy thrown in) there is gonna be some drama. I'm talking eating disorders, best friends, ex-friends, a bipolar boss, wild GNOs, drinking, drug use, mental breakdowns, and even affairs. Sometimes it was like story lines from a soap opera! Thankfully I was only involved in one, a sort of secret romance, and it stayed mostly on the DL. But yeah, my experiences there were one of the reasons I didn't want to put my kids in daycare. Bitches be crazy!


SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

haha! That is classic. Wait was this a date? Ugh, so glad to be over that stage of awkward in general.

Karen M. Peterson said...

That is crazy and hilarious!

I accidentally went on a date with a guy once when I was dating someone else. I should share that story. It's kind of funny.

Jana @ Jana Says said...

This is actually really funny. I'm glad you shared it.

Fun fact: I started a book/story and this situation you described is very similar to how the relationship in the book starts. I guess fiction really does imitate life.

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Talk about funny

Selma @ Crazy Little World Of Mine said...

Oh my this is a funny story though. I mean, something to look back at and laugh about. :)

I'm so not into Valentine's Day hence my presence online. :) I'm home alone and watching movies on demand. That's how romantic we are...haha, oh well.

Have a great weekend. :)

Allison said...

LOL I'm loving this! And also love that Jacob is confident enough in himself to not flip out.
You are absolutely adorable, no wonder why Hottie wanted to take you out (on a hot date to McDonald's, winks included). Seriously, I love this story and want more like this!!! xox

Jo said...

Ha Ha that is so funny!

Misty, Handbags + Handguns said...

I read this over this weekend when you tweeted it, but didn't get a chance to comment. This is hilarious! I don't think I ever had an accidental date.