Oh, romantic comedies. For the most part I can't stand them. I'm a pretty realistic and logical person, which means I'm not really a romantic at all. Nicholas Sparks makes me cringe. Long walks on the beach are exercise, not foreplay. Love at first sight is just lust. Pet names are embarrassing. Listening to a guy sing a sappy love song or recite a poem makes me giggle. I don't like weddings. I don't believe in soul-mates, fate, or kismet. Fairy-tale endings make me roll my eyes. Being in constant physical contact makes me claustrophobic. And don't you dare throw a rock at my window and wake everyone up at three in the morning. It can wait until tomorrow.

Man, I'm a grump.

It's not that I haven't had romance in my life. I did, in many relationships, and it's just not my thing. The guys seemed unoriginal, like they got their moves from a movie or a "How To Be Romantic" manual and it came across as clingy and needy. I didn't need someone to take care of my delicate heart, I wanted someone on my level when it came humor, intellect, ideas, values, fun, etc. So yeah, romantic comedies are pretty annoying to me and I usually don't find much comedy in them. But I am a girl, and some of them are just good mindless entertainment that make me happy, whether I believe in the happy ending or not. These are my favorite cookie cutter rom-coms:

These are the rom-coms I prefer. They're quirky, a little dark, less adorable, and actually make me laugh and think. Most importantly, they don't always have a happy ending.

When Misty at Handbags + Handguns wrote this post about watching When Harry Met Sally for the first time, I realized that I hadn't seen it or most of the old, classic rom-coms. So I downloaded a few of the ones I'm supposed to have seen and loved long ago.

I have to give it to When Harry Met Sally. It's a good one. It's thoughtful and very sweet, but not in an annoying way. Meg Ryan was so adorable! I think I liked it because their love was gradual. They didn't fall head over heels in one afternoon, they weren't always kind and sweet, and they really got to know each other. That's real life. I couldn't finish Annie Hall. First of all, Woody Allen annoys me. He writes and directs some really great movies, but I can't stand watching him. (I'm not getting into his personal life here at all, that's something for another day. I'm just talking about on screen). Diane Keaton isn't one of my favorites either. She's the same character in every movie. I guess it all started here because she was SUPER Diane Keaton-y. I just got tired of watching their neurosis. Moonstruck was pretty good, once you get past the cheese and predictability. Cher had a ridiculous accent, but her character was fun to watch. She was independent and knew what she wanted. I don't think Nicolas Cage is a good actor in general, and he was especially weird and macho in this movie, so I didn't fall in love with him, but I loved the supporting characters and thought it was an entertaining movie. Say Anything was alright. I know I'm going to get crap for this because people LOVE him, but Lloyd Dobbler is exactly the kind of whiny, needy guy I can't stand. I did like the story, Ione Sky was super cute, and there were many really great scenes. Lili Taylor was my favorite part of the whole movie though. Sleepless in Seattle wasn't great. I didn't find it charming or magical because of that whole fate and soul-mate thing that I don't believe in. Also, I like precocious kids in person, but not in movies, and this kid was annoying. I say skip this movie and watch An Affair To Remember, which it was inspired by. Heartburn was disappointing. The cast (including Stockard Channing, Jeff Daniels, Catherine O'Hara, and Joanna Gleason) and story (based on Nora Ephron's marriage) should have made it great, but I felt like Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson were trying to out-act each other. They also had zero chemistry. It was long and a little boring, but I liked the realistic ending. Maybe the book is better?

Have you seen all these movies?
What are your favorite rom-coms?


Kelly @ turned UP to ELEVEN! said...

You had me at "Nicholas Sparks makes me cringe."

You lost me at "Lloyd Dobbler is exactly the kind of whiny, needy guy I can't stand." I'm the opposite, Ione drives me bonkers... she's got this awesome dude that treats her well and she's torn because her daddy doesn't approve... (I do appreciate that she didn't give up on her dreams for a boy though).

I am the same way most ROM COM drives me crazy. I will watch anything Matthew is in, he makes JLo tolerable in that one you listed above.

Anything Kevin Smith is a great ROM COM in my opinion. I like realistic love too.

Have you seen Singles? By the same director/writer as Say Anything... trust me it's my ultimate favorite SUPER realistic for love in a modern world. And just enough SWEETNESS to not kill you but make you smile.

I like raunchy rom coms. (Forgetting Sarah Marshall is a HUGE favorite).

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

I haven't seen most of those movies lol. I'm so out of touch with any move before 2000 ;) I LOVE The Sweetest Thing. One of my all time favorites. And I used to have a huge crush on Durmot Mulrooney (yeah I butchered his name, whatever) so I loved My Best Friend's Wedding.

The movie I want to see and never have is Love Actually.

Suze said...

I've seen all of these except Annie Hall (shock!) and I really love Love Actually, the Object of my Affection, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, The Sweetest Thing and When harry Met Sally. In fact, Forgetting Sarah Marshall and When Harry Met Sally are two of my five desert island movies. I'm not a huge rom-com person, but the right ones are good stuff.

Karen M. Peterson said...

I've seen almost all of these movies and love them! Especially When Harry Met Sally.

I'm a big fan of the rom-com. Even though I don't believe in fate and all that stuff, I've just always been a sucker for a fairy tale.

Selma @ Crazy Little World Of Mine said...

I have seen all of them. WOW. My favorite is still When Harry Met Sally. Sleepless in Seattle, and Love Actually come close. :) I think I have to watch Heartburn again...it's been a while and I can't remember one thing. So bad.

Misty, Handbags + Handguns said...

So glad you loved When Harry Met Sally too! It was so good and didn't annoy me at all.

I love The Wedding Singer, The Wedding Planner and My Best Friend's Wedding. I also like Runaway Bride. Apparently, I love a cheesy wedding story.

50 First Dates is probably my favorite. I'm so excited for Drew and Adam's newest movie. I always hoped they'd get married in real life. Oh well...

Misty, Handbags + Handguns said...

Not done talking...

I've only seen one Nicholas Sparks movie, the one with Channing Tatum and Amanda Seyfried. I enjoyed it, but all the others look like crap to me.

Never seen Annie Hall and don't intend too. Boo Woody Allen!