10.05.2013

Just A Bunch Of Jeers

I'm so grumpy lately. The summer was fun in a lot of ways. We had tons of quality family time, concerts, celebrations, and dates. But it wasn't very easy on me and I think it's catching up. I had two surgeries: a tracheal dilation and a hernia repair. The tracheal dilation didn't last as long as it usually does, so I'm going back under the knife, er, laser in a week. I've also had some really bad acid reflux the past few months. I had an endoscopy and gallbladder ultrasound and everything looks healthy. My GI doctor played with my medications and my symptoms are finally in check, but that doesn't get to the root of the problem. Last week I had testing done to check the function of my esophagus. I also had the pH level in my stomach monitored, by wearing a tube through my nose down into my esophagus for 24 hours. Not fun! I'll hear back about all that in ten days.


On top of all that, there's the government shutdown. Jacob works for the Department of Defense and thankfully he wasn't furloughed. He's working (quite a bit actually, 10-hour days, six days a week), but he's not getting paid. So yeah, parts of my life suck a little bit and maybe I'm just super grumpy, but stupid little things are really getting to me. Especially social media. I'm stepping on my soap box…

Calling kids spoiled. I'm the first to admit, my kids have it easy and have a lot. I recently received comments about how they have iPods. For the record, their iPods are old iPhones. I loaded up kid-friendly, educational apps on some 3Gs. They only play with them once or twice a week and they are lifesavers on long drives or when I need to make a few phone calls during the day. I don't use screen-time as a babysitter, I control what they play and watch, and we go outside, visit museums, do art projects, listen to music, and play with stuff like cardboard boxes all the time. Also, I don't want my kids to be behind technologically. I won't say they can't have something just because I didn't at their age. The world is changing and it's important that our kids do to. I see constant complaints on Facebook about kids being spoiled and forcing their kids to go outside and play. How about get off the internet and go out there with them?


Posting pictures of strangers. I get it, people look weird. But I have a HUGE issue with taking a picture of someone random on the bus or at oh, I don’t know, Walmart, then posting it for everyone to judge on Facebook or Twitter. What did those people do to you? Why do you care what they're wearing? You don’t know their life, their history, their struggles. So what if their clothes are too small or unappealing? Maybe they can't afford anything better. Or maybe they like how they look and are comfortable in their skin. Which you obviously aren't, Judgey McJudgerson. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I judge people I know all the time, but why bother with strangers? It's such a passive way to be a mean girl. Or guy. I have guy friends that do it too, which really boggles my mind. WHO CARES?! BE NICE!


Constant social media updates about sports. I might just not understand because I'm not a die-hard fan of any team, at all. I enjoy the Mariners and love the Silvertips, but if they lose a game, it won't ruin my day. I'll never clog your feeds with play-by-play updates of a game or rant about how crappy they are when the game is over. If you can do better, why aren't you out there? Just stop watching if you can't handle it. Instead, turn on the news, learn about what is going on in the world, and get passionate about something that matters, not a stupid game.


Political rants. I completely accept that everyone has a difference of opinion, but the government shutdown has brought out a new breed of political posting. Who knew it could get worse than election season? It's getting really hard for me to bite my tongue when someone flat out doesn't know what they're talking about. People type things they would never say in a room full of people. I've followed the news closely and don't think I'm an idiot when it comes to politics (I have a degree in poli sci afterall), but I have been SO GOOD about keeping my feeds clean. I may "like" someone else's post, but I'm not sharing or retweeting anything. It just isn't productive. Mostly, I just can't stand how mean people get while defending their positions. That's the wrong way to do it, you look like an idiot, and you aren't changing any one's mind.


Social media "friend"ships. I love having real life friends with different political, social and religious views and I even enjoy respectable conversations about those differences. But when you're spouting garbage while hiding behind your computer, and it's something I don't agree with, I just don't have to read it anymore. I'm so thankful for the ability to hide and filter, but when that doesn't work, I will unfriend and unfollow. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's my choice to shut out close-mindedness. I admit, I've been unfriended before and wondered why, since we were great friends in high school and exchanged pleasantries on Facebook pretty regularly. But it doesn't matter. Maybe he didn't like that I voted for Obama. Maybe he was sick of reading the weird things Nolan says. Maybe he can't stand that I occasionally share Britney Spears videos. I have no idea why and I don't really care. I've even had some of Jacob's extended family members unfriend me because I wrote something about my best friend, who happens to be gay. Whatever. I'd rather not have them there anyway. All I'm saying is stop taking it personally! We can be friends in real life and not online. It's ok. 


Ok, whoa. To be clear, not everything in my life is terrible right now. Jacob and I just celebrated seven years of marriage. We're getting ready for our first family vacation to Disneyland. Nolan is doing so well in Pre-K. His his teachers are really happy with the work we put in over the summer and said he's really progressed. He is so focused and takes a lot of pride in his school work. Milo is hilarious and so, so smart. It shocks people every day when I tell them that he's only 2 1/2 years old. He started swimming lessons last month and has a lot more control and coordination than Nolan did at that age and is doing so well bobbing, floating, and paddling. In the end, all the stuff I complained about is nothing, and it's probably just me being a huge bitch, but I can't seem brush it off anymore. I think need to unplug for a while. 

11 comments:

Misty said...

I've been extremely cranky lately. Since fall temps are finally here and my kids are out for the week, I am vowing to have some fun.

I hope the docs find out what's going on with you soon. I can't imagine feeling bad and not having an answer. Big jeer!

There's a difference between children being spoiled and being lucky enough to provide for your children. People are dumb. And technology is very important. Both of my kids are intellectually advanced for their age. Computers are part of the reason why.

I do love sports, but I don't post update after update after update. It's not necessary because other people who love sports are probably watching the game.

I hide a lot of people who rant about politics. If I hear one more person say Obama shut down the government...



SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

I hate feeling gross and not knowing why.

People who spout off about politics with no idea what they're talking about make me utterly insane. I have defriended three people on facebook since 2008 and all three were over political things.

I am guilty of snapping photos of my fellow commuters. Commuting brings out my snark and I know it.

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I so hear you, I completely agree, I don't care whey people feel the need to judge strangers. I know all my Facebook friends either in real life or through blogging, I do not see the need to be friends with every one under the sun......most are family members and some blog friends.

Jo said...

Hey, we all need to get on our soap boxes every once in a while and vent, keeps us sane & healthy-ish.

Glad the boys are doing so well!

ErinMSW said...

It must just be a cranky time of the year, because I have been feeling like a megabitch lately! RE: the sports updates - I just put a ranty status update on Facebook about all the Phillies fans who are giving people who are now cheering for the Pirates a hard time and calling them bandwagon jumpers. I can't stand it. Why do you need to harass someone who has simply - momentarily - chosen another team (who happens to be in your own state) to support in the playoffs? Pisses me off.

On another note, please update on the reflux thing and I'd love to hear more about this monitor. My sister has TERRIBLE reflux and the doctors can't seem to find a source/cause for it and therefore can't figure out how to treat it.

Kelly @ turned UP to ELEVEN! said...

I hate that your hubby is stuck working for no pay (*fingers crossed it's one of those deals where he will get back pay*) - I'm even more sorry you have to go under the knife again, and I hope all the tests help your acid reflux I get it from time to time, biggest culprits... sugar and too much say pasta, but I think it's more like too much tomato sauce? Chili this past weekend AND hamburgers just about killed me... I think I'm adding ground beef to that pile of issues. Keep us posted.

I could not agree with you more about Facebook and social media. I've all but stopped using FB - I only check in to see how my friends and their kids are doing, and I'm talking like... handful of friends.

Political BS drives me crazy - AND I agree with you, that people hide behind their computers and spout off stuff they'd never say in a room full of people.

As far as spoiled kids - I really like your mind set, you know I hadn't thought about the fact that yeah, when I was a kid I didn't have a cell phone, but you're right kids need to keep up with technology, the world is NOT slowing down. It's all about balance which it sounds like you do it well balancing real childhood activities and tech education and fun! PS I love the bit about get off the internet and get outside and play with your kids - too!!!

Karen M. Peterson said...

I've been feeling cranky lately, too, but I think I'm moving past it finally! Yay!

I SO agree with you about the political rants on facebook. I know I share slivers of my opinion here and there, but I try to do it in a fairly respectful way since I know at least half of my friends will disagree with me anyway.

I do have to disagree with you about sports, though. As a diehard Angels and 49ers fan, I rely on social media to help commiserate or rejoice based on how my team is doing. I need it. I really, really need it.

Hope you're doing okay with the tubes down your throat and stuff. Sounds really un fun!

Tiffany @ Polka Dotted Cats said...

You deserve a rant every now and then! I think you need a vacation in which you stay at home and RELAX. But also come to California more often :) I don't know how that works out though. HANG IN THERE!!

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

People in general are just dumb jerks. Like for real. What I am over is people talking shit then pretend to be people's bffs. Um, you were just making fun of that person now you're tweeting them?

And political views. I'm middle of the road. Legit an independent voter. I wish people could realize things are not black and white and learn to work with each other instead of being so hateful.

OK and for sports. I do post now and then. I hope that doesn't piss you off. Lol but getting to go to a game in NO is huge for me. Or if they are doing well. I don't do a million posts and clogs feeds though.

Annnd I totally bought a voodoo good luck charm in NO bc of all of the crap happening to me. I should've bought you one!

Tricia Nae said...

Amen. Ha. I totally get the political thing. It drives me crazy. I get that people are passionate about their beliefs and rightly so. BUT...that doesn't make someone with opposing views a complete idiot (unless, of course they are).

Hope you are feeling better soon!

Kat@shop.school.sleep. said...

HI...i heart you!! The spolied kid thing...yeah I see the side where I have to take my student's phones away becasue they are on them during class..it's like why do you have a phone? IN CLASS? I totally understand the educational purposes of it thou and I plan to buy my kids a tablet of soem kind for the brain teaser games and reading etc. It's just funny to think about how tech nology has evolved since the days of cassette players and walkmans. I can't take pictures of random people, i think i have done it once, but i cut their heads off and only sent it to matt or soemthing becasue soemtimes you just have to share whatever weird ness you're seeing and omg the political rants. I havd a friend's mom on my Facebook and the stuff she posts about Obama as a president (actually i have a lot of "Republican" friends like that) I tell Matt that I hope we get a Repbulican president so i can post the same shit they are....it's annoying and disgusting at times. Love reading your random rant :)