5.19.2013

Blog Break

Here it is. The obligatory "I'm talking a blog break" post. I scaled back a few months ago, but I think I need an official break.


When I started blogging three years and 731 posts ago (whoa), I was pregnant with Milo and Nolan was a one-year old who napped. We were living in an apartment in a new town, waiting for our house to be built and I had all the time in the world. Blogging has always been an outlet, something fun just for me, and I really do love it. I discovered this awesome community and "met" (and actually met) the best people, who I consider real friends. But I spend all my free time in the evenings and on weekends writing, emailing, reading, and commenting. Again, I love it, but I don't have enough time lately. Rather than constantly apologize and complain about my full reader and inbox, and staying up late to catch up, I have to force myself to just stop for a while.

This is Nolan's last week of preschool and I need to pay more attention to my two crazy boys who need fresh air, nature, and room to run. And when we're inside this summer, I want to hang out on the floor with them and get involved in big messy art, cooking, and science projects. I need to stop worrying about all the emails and blogs I haven't caught up on and all those ideas I have yet to turn into posts. These years are fleeting. Before I know it Milo will be in first grade and I'll be back to work. I also have a list of house projects that gets longer and longer without crossing anything off. I want to spend more of my evenings with Jacob. And I need to get my ass in gear and lose weight already, which means more time at the gym.

Plus, there are some things going on with Nolan that I haven't really talked about. He's seen a few doctors and specialists the past two months trying to figure out where his attention and focus issues stem from. His teacher suggested ADD. The behavior specialist said no, he's just high energy (he totally is! just like his dad) and possibly has an auditory processing disorder. The language specialist said he's intellectually gifted and shows some signs of Asperger's. The ASD specialist said it's not Asperger's, but he possibly has anxiety (both kinds: excitability and nervousness). We have an evaluation with the school district next week, but I have a feeling he's not bad enough to qualify for any services and he's too young for the highly capable program. And it could also be that he's a typical kid with some quirks.

For a while I was beating myself up about it. Like, crying every night for a month straight. I read tons of books and did every exercise suggested by all the specialists (none of them recommended any kind of therapy). The most important thing is that Nolan is a very smart, sweet kid, who loves to learn and hates to get in trouble. He doesn't actually get in trouble (except for saying bathroom words with the other boys in his class), he just needs to be reminded to stay on certain tasks. I've spent some time at his preschool recently and found that ALL of the boys have focus and attention "problems" and Nolan isn't the worst one. But I'm going to be experimenting with his diet and paying him a lot of extra attention this summer so he'll be prepared for pre-K next year. I just want him to have all the support he needs to be successful.

Luckily Milo is the easiest kid ever. He sleeps well, eats well, has the best conversations, and is physical, funny, and so smart. He's right on the tail of where Nolan was at his age, which kind of scares me. We can't have two smartypants in the house! All I can say is thank God for Google because I don't know the answers to most of the questions these kids throw at me. We had a little scare at the dentist last week when we were told that a white spot on his tongue (I thought it was a burn from a hot french fry) would have to be biopsied. Jacob and I did our own research and figured/hoped it was a callus from thumb sucking. He only sucks his thumb at night so we weren't really worried about it yet, but the kid has some suction! So we've been weaning him from his own thumb, which was kind of heartbreaking the first few nights, but he's doing so well now. The dentist wants to take another look at the spot later this week, but it's completely gone. Yay Milo!

So yeah, I have a lot on my mind and I need to redirect my focus for a bit. I can't say if this will be a month long break, or through the summer, or if I'll start posting every once in a while fairly soon. I just know that my heart isn't in it right now. (I will post a bunch of book reviews soon thanks to NetGalley though). I'll definitely check your blogs and I'll still be present (probably more so) on Twitter and Instagram. Also, check out my concert videos on YouTube (there will be tons, I have ten upcoming concerts to attend) and see what I'm reading on Goodreads. I'll be keeping up my family blog too. If you are interested in following there to see what we're up to, let me know and I'll send you an invitation. Since it's a private blog it won't show up in your reader of choice, so you'll just have to stop by every once in a while.

I'll be seeing ya. I hope not sporadically!

20 comments:

Jodi said...

Good for you for doing what you need to do for your family. There is so much pressure that we put on ourselves to blog everyday but really why!? Blog when you want and have time. Read and comment when you can. Have a wonderful break playing with your adorable boys. And yes get to the gym b/c it is important to do something for you and to feel good! Good luck and look forward to hearing from you when you are ready to pop back into blogging. xoxo

Kat@shop.school.sleep. said...

I'm gonna miss you...reading your blog i mean, but totally understand with the 2 kiddos growing up and not wanting to miss anything. plus see you in Oct!!!

Misty said...

I will miss your weekly posts, but you'll be gone with good reason. It sounds like you're researching every avenue with Nolan. It can be hectic and scary, but good for you for being educated and not medicating your child at the first mention of ADD.

Obviously, we'll still be in touch, so I'll get over not seeing your magazine roundup and Cheers & Jeers. But if you do decide to blog, those are my favorite. ;)

Suze said...

I will miss you but I totally understand. Happy summer!

Jen said...

I'm getting ready to take a break too. I'll be up North for almost all of June. I can't wait! Don't be so worried about Nolan. I'm sure you'll get it all figured out. Kids are funny little beings. So glad Milo's tongue is better. I'll see you on Facebook dear!

jessica said...

Considering I barely blog or read blogs anymore, I totally understand!! I love your honesty and I know that this is an important time in your boys' lives and they need you more than ever. You're an amazing mom and you can't be in all places at all times, sometimes you just need a break. I'm glad we can keep in touch elsewhere. If there's anything I can ever do, let me know!!

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

I'll miss you!! But I totally get it. The whole "community" has been kinda shitty and makes me want to take a big step back as well. You have amazing, important things going on so it's understandable. I'll still Twitter stalk you AND see you in October :)

Melanie Montgomery said...

I've taken a break too.
Sometimes we just need one.
I hope that Nolan gets the right diagnosis, and maybe there is nothing wrong and he just has quirks like you said!

Karen M. Peterson said...

Totally understand, but miss you already!

SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph said...

You always do what you need to do for yourself and your family first! I'll be here reading when you post. And I just sent you a friend request on the face space.

Gwen said...

I totally understand your needing to take a break, and how frustrating to not have better answers as to what (if anything) is going on with Nolan. Selfishly, I'm sad since we've just discovered how much we have in common but I hope we'll still be in contact. And when you decide to come back I'll be reading!

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Many bloggers need a break from time to time so deal with family and you know we will be here when you return

Tiffany @ Polka Dotted Cats said...

Have a good break my love. And good luck with everything! I will be harassing you via text, probably.

tara said...

hoping that testing answers a bunch of your questions regarding N. i work with an educational diagnostician and a speech pathologist and i hear that this type of testing and learning the child's strengths/weaknesses/learning styles etc can make all the difference in the world and can make learning and school much easier by putting accommodations in place or just being aware of how he learns. sorry i'm rambling. will miss you while you're on a break but will be here when you come back!

Deidre said...

Aw, I'm newish here! But have a fantastic break - it's needed sometimes. Plus, what's more important then spending time with those growing kiddos? Nothing.

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Jo said...

Enjoy the break with your boys and Jacob! Have loads of fun ... but know that you'll be missed!

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Amy Powell said...

well enjoy your time away! sometimes stepping back is the best.

have a lovely summer :)

That's What She Read said...

Apparently I've been in a hole and am so crazy sorry I missed this post! Good for you for knowing you wanted a break. Love ya, miss ya!!