11.08.2011

How Do You Unfriend In Real Life?

I’ve had friendships end because one of us moved. I’ve had friendships end because our lives went in different directions and we no longer had room/need for each other. I’ve had friendships end because we got lazy and stopped keeping in touch. I’ve even had a friendship end because of a fight. But I’ve never actively tried to end a friendship.

I’m friends with someone right now who I’m pretty much over. I admit that sometimes I get sick of my friends and need breaks from them, but this person, who I’ll call “A” (Oh how I love Pretty Little Liars), has been bugging me for about a year. That’s enough time and I think I’m done with the friendship. We don't have anything in common, have a hard time finding things to talk about and A doesn't bring much to the table. A doesn't think any of this though. A thinks I'm a great friend. Oops.

But what do I do? I’ve done my best to give myself space and limit contact, but every time I talk to A I feel my blood pressure rise. Yes, A annoys me that much. So I just give excuses as to why I can’t hang out. (Luckily I have kids so the reasons really aren’t that far fetched. I hardly have time to hang out with the people I do like right now.) If I had my way, I’d do the passive thing and just keep making excuses until A stopped talking to me. If it weren't for mutual friends, I'd phase A out, just like Kip.

Rachel
Oh my God, it’s happening. It's already started. I'm Kip.

Joey
Hey, you're not Kip!

Rachel
(To Joey) Do you even know who Kip is?

Joey
Who cares? You're Rachel! (To Chandler) Who's Kip?

Chandler
Kip, my old roommate, you know we all used to hang out together.

Rachel
See? He and Monica dated when they broke up they couldn't even be in the same room together
and you all promised that you would stay his friend and what happened? He got phased out!

Monica
You're not gonna be phased out!

Rachel
Well, of course I am! It's not gonna happen to Ross! He's your brother. (To Chandler) He's your old college roommate.
Ugh, it was just a matter of time before someone had to leave the group.
I just always assumed Phoebe would be the one to go.

Phoebe
Ehh!

Rachel
Honey, come on! You live far away! You're not related. You lift right out.


Ugh.
A is not getting the hint and keeps trying to hang out.
So what do I do? Have you ever broken up with a friend?

6 comments:

Jessica Renee said...

Sorry but I have NO advice... I'm going through the same thing with a friend and have been for a while so obviously I have no idea how to just cut it off. lol. So if you get some great advice on how to end it, let me know!! :p

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KDC Events said...

It is hard. I have learned in life that I am so busy with my family that I only have time for those who love me. I only have 2 or 3 close friends and that is OK.

kenli said...

i know how you feel. i've spent the past 3 weeks trying to "phase out" a really good friend because of some things that happened that lead me to really never being able to trust her again. i think i have too big of heart or too big of a guilty conscience, though, cause i found myself apologizing to her and trying to mend things.

i lose.

Leeann @ Join the Gossip said...

Luckily (only for this type of thing) none of my friends live in LA. So I don't have to deal with this. But I do have a friend who I don't want to be friends with and she lives in another city. I'd prefer not to let her know when I'm in her city but always end up doing so because I know she'll find out and have a fit. But maybe that's what's needed to end the friendship...lol

hotpants™ said...

So, are you saying that "A" is scrappy like Monica?